I agree completely. Rejection is always difficult to deal with, and realizing for the first time you can't always belong where you want to can be really awful. It shouldn't happen through violence.
The claims that bullying is a normal part of life infuriate me a lot, but I suppose it's so common - you either experience, practice or witness it - that you can't help but feel it's truly that. That in turn makes it easier not to see it as true violence, which is just FUCKED UP BEYOND WORDS. It's like people expect children to be both innocent and have emotional maturity of adults at the same time; the former lets you believe bullies don't mean it and the latter lets you believe the victims aren't right enough. I want to believe it's an attempt to rationalize the possibility of human evil away because otherwise I just don't understand the effort put into it.
Thanks for saying that. Old beliefs are hard to let go, but I'm starting to realize that the shame isn't mine to feel.
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Date: 2009-05-10 11:19 am (UTC)The claims that bullying is a normal part of life infuriate me a lot, but I suppose it's so common - you either experience, practice or witness it - that you can't help but feel it's truly that. That in turn makes it easier not to see it as true violence, which is just FUCKED UP BEYOND WORDS. It's like people expect children to be both innocent and have emotional maturity of adults at the same time; the former lets you believe bullies don't mean it and the latter lets you believe the victims aren't right enough. I want to believe it's an attempt to rationalize the possibility of human evil away because otherwise I just don't understand the effort put into it.
Thanks for saying that. Old beliefs are hard to let go, but I'm starting to realize that the shame isn't mine to feel.